I fell into the friends-with-benefits zone.
“A few months ago, I fell into the ‘friends with benefits’ zone with a guy and now I’ve fallen for him. We spend all our time together and when I bring up dating, he says he’s not ready to commit. He says he needs more time to decide. I think I like him more than […]
Should I be dating or waiting?
“What are your thoughts on dating in high school and early college? I’ve heard that if you aren’t serious about getting married, you shouldn’t date.” Just the other day, I had a conversation with a sweet friend of mine who told me that people shamed her for having a boyfriend in high school. They told […]
How do I join already-formed friend groups?
“My college is known for being cliquey. How do I join friend groups that have already been formed?” This is a great question that is applicable for a freshman at a small school, a transfer student at a new school, and really any person joining a new community (a new church, a new town, a […]
How do I initiate and maintain friendships?
“If people approach me to be friends, I feel I have nothing to offer to maintain the relationship. How can I initiate and maintain the friendship with conversation and common ground?” I got this email over a week ago and sat on it. I’ve thought about it every single day and I’m still not sure […]
My friend is lying to me because she thinks I will judge her.
“I found out that a good friend has been lying to me about choices she’s recently made, because she thinks I’m going to be disappointed or judge her. I don’t want her to think that, but I’m really upset to hear she has been lying to me. I know I’m not in the right here, […]
My roommate has all her high school friends & I feel left out.
“My roommate has all her high school friends to hang out with and I don’t know anyone. I’ve tried to tag along a few times, but it feels like she’d rather not include me. I don’t want to seem needy but I’m just not sure what to do.” First let me just start by saying, […]