29. When you need to forgive but don’t know where to start

This is a really important conversation. Jessica Hottle joins me to talk about healing from childhood trauma, learning how to forgive, and ultimately finding freedom in Christ.

 In this episode, we discuss:

  • Responding to and recovering from childhood trauma
  • How to forgive those who have wronged you and why it matters
  • The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation
  • How to dismantle the lies that keep us from healing and wholeness
  • How to see the truth of Romans 8:28 when we’re looking at past trauma

Scripture Mentioned:

  • Ephesians 5
  • John 10:10
  • Psalm 145:17
  • Psalm 139
  • 1 John 1

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Quotes from this episode:

I spent most of my twenties praying to God, “Here’s what I feel, but what do you say about what I feel? -Jessica Hottle

I have learned that I can respond, regardless of how someone responds to me because Jesus is the pain taker. -Jessica Hottle

I think we often correlate forgiveness with reconciliation. But reconciliation takes two people. And it takes repentance. Both parties come together to say “I understand. How can we move forward?” Forgiveness, though, is really a single party with you and the Father. And it’s letting go of the pain that you think you have to carry. -Jessica Hottle

A lot of the world’s opinions of forgiveness can be really skewed. -Jessica Hottle

God doesn’t cause trauma. But He is good in the bad and He makes things good that feel bad. -Jessica Hottle

God is for you. He sees you. He hears you. You are already known. -Jessica Hottle

When we can rest in the fact that we are already known, we don’t have to prove ourselves anymore. -Jessica Hottle

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. -Lewis B Smedes

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