Please stop being a Valentine’s Day hater.

This post is for all the Valentine’s Day haters.

First let me make my confession: I love Valentine’s Day. I do. And I have never, in 28 years, had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day.  And, honestly, counting the number of guys I’ve dated, it’s kind of a small miracle.

But there are a lot of us out there that hate Valentine’s Day.  We wear black and call it Happy Single Awareness Day.  So my post today is a plea to you.  Please stop being a Valentine’s Day hater. 

I was going to wow you with my knowledge of St. Valentine’s history & show you how it’s rooted in something wonderful.  You can read it for yourself, but it actually seems pretty creepy.  The Saint is about to be executed, writes a note to his JAILER’S daughter and signs it “Your Valentine.” I don’t know if he was in love with her or if it was just a nice “goodbye” note (supposedly he healed her when she was deathly ill?).  I don’t know.  I just know I am now creeped out.

But I’m still going to plead with you to reconsider how amazing Valentine’s Day can be.

Now, we can blame my love for this over-commercialized day on my mother.  I grew up eating heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast with red sprinkles & finding a valentine’s day present at the dinner table every February 14th I can remember.  In fact, just last night, I stopped by my parents’ house to return a dish, and my mom had a Valentine’s day gift prepared for me.   I’ll remind you, I’m 28 years old.   Call me spoiled, call me a momma’s girl, I don’t care.  I love my annual Valentine’s day presents.  My dad even sent me a Disney princess card in the mail this year.

I know what you’re thinking–WHO CARES.  Maybe you’re wondering if little birds dressed me every morning too as I grew up in this Valentine’s Day Disney Princess Loving Household.  They didn’t, though that sure would have been awesome.

Here’s the point.  I love Valentine’s Day because it’s a fun excuse to shower your friends & family with gifts, candy, cards, and kind words.  Every year throughout high school and college, I prepared Valentine’s day packages for all my closest girlfriends.  Yes, I know you can do this any day of the year, but why not on Valentine’s Day?

You gain nothing by being anti-Valentine’s day. 

But what if instead of scoffing at all the couples and making bitter jokes all day about Single Awareness Day, you just wrote some nice, thoughtful notes to a few of your best friends.  Tell them how much you love them, are thankful for them, and name a few examples of how their friendship has meant something over the past year.

Everyone is under-encouraged.

No one hears that they are loved, valued, and appreciated enough.  So spread the love today.  It doesn’t have to be anything over the top.  A few kind and heart-felt words written on a piece of paper go a long way. 

*Or just send them this video:

13 thoughts on “Please stop being a Valentine’s Day hater.”

  1. I LOVE this. I used to be a Valentines Day hater – but it’s so dumb. I think another thing people need to remember is that the big V-Day isn’t just about romantic love. What about love for family, friends, etc? Those types of love are just as important and we need to share that with the people around us. (And I like my little Valentines Day gifts from my parents too!)

    1. I used to have a skull & bones thumb ring (the skulls eyes were in the shape of hearts) I wore on Valentines Day. 🙂 I actually found it in my coat pocket ON valentines day one year. That was my one act of rebellion. 😉

  2. True, hating on Valentine’s Day is pointless. It is typically just a redirection of suppressed hurt by us single folks. Thanks for your post.
    ps, your loving father tweeted this so I read it. You are spoiled by him. haha.

  3. My mom also made me heart shaped pancakes on Valentines day when I was growing up. And who am I kidding, I am also 28 and she would have made them for me today if we were in the same country. Great post. I love Valentines Day!

  4. Well said. Also well said (by someone you hold dear): everyone is under-encouraged; everyone is insecure; and everyone needs a friend. Happy Black Thursday (bah humbug haha) (jk)

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