Is it okay to drink?
“My 21st birthday is coming up. I grew up in a home where alcohol was never present due to a family history of alcoholism. I go to a very conservation church where the whole topic is taboo. I have friends who get drunk almost every weekend, and that’s not what I want. I’ve never really […]
When is it okay to consider switching roommates?
I’ve had two conversations this week (and then this question came in) about switching roommates or general plans on where to live next school year. Though it may seem a little early, you’ll be surprised how quickly in the spring semester you are going to have to make decisions on the who and where of […]
I’m just not happy at college.
“Everyone says that college is the best four years of your life, but so far it’s been pretty hard and lonely. Why does it seem like everyone else is doing so much better than me? I’m wondering if I picked the wrong school and maybe need to transfer.” Listen to me. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. […]
How do I join already-formed friend groups?
“My college is known for being cliquey. How do I join friend groups that have already been formed?” This is a great question that is applicable for a freshman at a small school, a transfer student at a new school, and really any person joining a new community (a new church, a new town, a […]
How do I initiate and maintain friendships?
“If people approach me to be friends, I feel I have nothing to offer to maintain the relationship. How can I initiate and maintain the friendship with conversation and common ground?” I got this email over a week ago and sat on it. I’ve thought about it every single day and I’m still not sure […]
How do I pick a church?
“I grew up in the same church my whole life and now that I have to choose my own church, realize I have no clue how to go about it. There are so many churches to choose from. How do I pick a good one?” I’m so glad you asked. I really struggled with this […]